Conquering perfection- It has been a while since I last sat down and took some time to write a blog entry. It feels good to pause for a moment and jot down my thoughts and feelings on a page. I’ve been watching a lot of Ted Talks recently and I’ve found them not only insightful but thought provoking. I watched one in particular that got me thinking and that was one about poli potentialities- which loosely means people who are able to excel in many, sometimes unrelated, fields- whether academic or professional.
I thought to myself, well here is something that makes more sense to me. I’ve never liked the idea of having to pick one thing to do for the rest of my life. I mean, how could I possibly pick one thing out of my many interests, especially if I include the interests I may come to form in the future.
As the speaker went on, she explained that this concept of picking one career to last for a lifetime is a socially constructed one and isn’t necessarily founded in anything deeper. At Conquering Life, you learn to question assumptions and societal conditioning and this video rang true with my Conquering Life training.
This Ted Talk speaker had spilled some more light upon the concept of fulfilling ONE true calling and now I could see all the cracks. I know that most of you reading this will have struggled, at least on some level, with this idea. The one that is constantly brought to our attention with the age old question, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” And if you are like me and have passed into the “grown up” category you find yourself being asked, “What are you going to do with your life?”
It is such a loaded question, whether you’re five or thirty-five because it makes you, first believe that there is such a thing as one true purpose for everyone and eventually it makes you feel like there’s something wrong with you for not being sure about what that one elusive thing is (a need for conquering perfection comes to mind…).
Conquering Life enabled me to shed what I term as the “happiness checklist of life”- this concept that you follow an exact path of education, career, spouse, family and house in order to achieve complete happiness. It is a social structure that doesn’t guarantee happiness but often generates disappointment and discontent. That being said, I think on some level I was still looking for that one purpose that would identify me and give my life a specific and special meaning. And while I’m sure there are plenty of people who do find a calling or a passion that they connect with wholeheartedly, I don’t think I’ll ever be happy with being or studying just one thing.
Life isn’t clear cut, nor are humans, personalities or life purposes (usually). I think the important thing is that we keep doing and reaching for things that make us passionate, whether that’s a clear practical objective or whether it’s a crazy jumble of interests. As long as you are dedicated to making it work for you there is no reason to twist ourselves in knots to fit into a very narrow societal definition of perfection. I’m Conquering Perfection and Life, by embracing difference and uncertainty, exploring my passions and working towards a perfection that suits me.
Everyone’s ‘perfect’ is different and that’s okay, at least as long as your perfect doesn’t include cannibalism or world domination- as that would probably negatively affect other people’s perfection. Perfect is defined by the wonderful imperfections that make us happy and excel. So let go of doing what you think you should and do what you feel is right – even if that’s not clear or practical. Make your life, your life- however you need to.
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